Watch Out For The “Mine!” Attitude

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Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow… (James 4:14). 

I could modify this wisdom from James to say, “I don’t even know with certainty what will happen today!” 

It’s okay to make my daily plans—servants in their master’s household do this—but I must never forget that I am not my own Master. I belong to Another, and He can use me as He knows best. 

God does know—perfectly knows—what will happen today and may “interrupt” my plans (of course, it is only an interruption from my selfish perspective) as any moment. 

In C.S. Lewis’ The Screwtape Letters, Screwtape is an older, more experienced demon, who is giving advice to his young nephew Wormwood about tempting his patient. Screwtape knew that this attitude of thinking, “My time is my own” is an ideal place to focus temptation. He counseled Wormwood—

    “Now you will have noticed that nothing throws [your patient] into a passion so easily as to find a tract of time which he reckoned on having at his own disposal unexpectedly taken from him. … You must therefore zealously guard in his mind the curious assumption ‘My time is my own’. Let him have the feeling that he starts each day as the lawful possessor of twenty-four hours. Let him feel as a grievous tax that portion of this property which he has to make over to his employers, and as a generous donation that further portion which he allows to religious duties. But what he must never be permitted to doubt is that the total from which these deductions have been made was, in some mysterious sense, his own personal birthright.” 

This “Mine!” attitude can be kept in check by starting each day with the reminder that, “This is what I plan to do today, if the Lord wills.” With this in mind at the start of each day, I can view unexpected people or situations that come my way not as interruptions to my day, but as opportunities to glorify my Master. He wants me to steward the 24 hours He gives me each day, and my top priority has to be remembering that these hours are a gift from Him, not hours that are mine to do with as I please. 

If I get upset with either the person that “interrupts” me or the situation which “takes up my time,” that is an indication of the “Mine!” attitude that I need to ask the Holy Spirit’s help to correct. 

I’ve often joked that after “Mama” and “Dada,” the next word most toddlers learn is, “Mine!” So there’s a lot of that attitude that has been ingrained in us from birth. The Holy Spirit knows just how much “Mine!” is in there, and He knows how to help us remove it. Trust Him in that process. 

And if you would like to check out some related posts, take a look at… 

  • Confession: I struggle with being an atheist, where I talk about how I use the acronym I.T.L.W. (“if the Lord wills”) to help me trust God with my day. 
  • In Run to wait I use an example from Mr. Carson in the television series Downton Abbey to teach us about the urgent and important matters that we have to juggle each day. 
  • In I checked nothing off my To Do list today I share a real-time example of how God’s “interruptions” were really His opportunities for me to be a blessing to others. 

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The Servant Stands Strong

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The second-to-last book of the New Testament is a short letter to the Church in which Jude felt urged by the Holy Spirit to challenge Christians to “contend for the faith that was once for all entrusted to the saints.” Does contend mean Christians are supposed to be combative about sharing their faith? We can learn a lot from the way Jude opens this letter. 

First, let’s look at who wrote this book. 

The names of the brothers of Jesus are listed twice (Mark 6:3; Matthew 13:55), and Jude is either the youngest or second youngest of these male siblings. He was a part of the family delegation that went to bring Jesus home because they thought He was out of His mind (Mark 3:21, 31). Later on, Jude would also mockingly taunt Jesus (John 7:5). 

(Check out all of the Scriptures in this post by clicking here.)

James is the oldest brother after Jesus. When Paul writes that Jesus appeared to James after the resurrection (1 Corinthians 15:7), it’s possible that it means Jesus appeared to all of his brothers, because Paul also mentions that the brothers of Jesus had become evangelists (9:5). It’s not surprising that Jude calls himself a brother of James, but it is quite shocking that he calls himself a servant of Jesus Christ. 

In fact, he calls Jesus:

  • our only Sovereign and Lord (v. 4) 
  • the One who gives us eternal life (v. 21) 
  • the only One who is our entrance into Heaven (vv. 24- 25) 

We need to adopt this servant’s mindset as we interact with others. 

Second, let’s notice who Jude’s audience is. 

Jude writes to people who are called, sanctified, preserved (NKJV). 

  • called = invited to the banquet 
  • sanctified = hagiazo = holy ones or saints 
  • preserved / kept = carefully attended to  

Finally, let’s consider how Jude expects saints to be living each day. 

Jude says in verse 2 that we are to live…

  • mercifully = not wanting people to get the punishment they deserve 
  • peacefully = having our soul so secure that we fear nothing from God 
  • lovingly = agape love like Jesus (John 3:16, 13:1) and like us (13:35, 15:9) 

And all of these things are to be in abundance—ever multiplying! 

After all of this, we are now in a place to consider how to live contending for the faith (v. 3). 

We are servants of Jesus, called to His banquet, set apart and preserved for His glory; we are intimately aware of His mercy, peace, and love, which we want others to know for themselves. 

Before we learn how to contend, let’s ask the Holy Spirit to check our attitude to ensure we indeed have the attitude of a secure servant. 

Follow along with all of the sermons in this series called Earnestly Contend. 

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May I Be Called Servant

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We are getting ready to kick off a new series at Calvary Assembly of God based on the Book of Jude. When I read the opening line of this letter, it makes me pause. Jude writes, “Jude, a servant of Jesus Christ and a brother of James” (v. 1). 

Men like Peter and John had spent years in Christ’s company, and they called Him Lord and said they were His servants. Paul had supernatural encounters with the risen Savior, and said that he was a man devoted to His service. James and Jude shared a home and family with Jesus, and they call themselves His servant. 

How could I ever claim a title any higher than servant? 

Even if Jude didn’t say it in a bragging fashion, if he simply stated, “Jesus is my Brother,” I am pretty sure that has got to be a door opener for him! People would probably give him an audience and an opportunity—perhaps they would even give his words greater weight—simply because of the fact that they were brothers. But Jude uses this open door to point people to Jesus, not to himself.

So that got me thinking, “What will I do with the open doors, the opportunities, and the listening audiences that are before me? Will I use those things to promote my own agenda or will I use those things to promote Jesus? Will I speak what’s on my mind or what the Holy Spirit puts in my mind?”

I pray that I may use every opportunity to turn as many eyes and hearts as I am able to Jesus. May I use every open door to invite others to come closer to Christ. May I never promote my agenda, but merely be a servant who is speaking the words which I’ve been instructed and anointed to share. 

May I only be called a servant of Jesus Christ. 

I get much deeper into this topic of biblically-grounded leadership in my book Shepherd Leadership: The Metrics That Really Matter.

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Use Your Spiritual Gifts Well

However, since we have gifts that differ according to the grace given to us, each of us is to use them properly: if prophecy, in proportion to one’s faith; if service, in the act of serving; or the one who teaches, in the act of teaching; or the one who exhorts, in the work of exhortation; the one who gives, with generosity; the one who is in leadership, with diligence; the one who shows mercy, with cheerfulness. (Romans 12:6-8)

As God has gifted you…

  • Prophesy faithfully
  • Serve wholeheartedly 
  • Teach skillfully 
  • Exhort encouragingly 
  • Give generously 
  • Lead diligently 
  • Restore cheerfully 

I taught a series of classes on these motivational gifts. Check out the videos and downloadable materials here.

“It Is Thou”

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My cousin shared this quote from Francois Fenelon with me a couple of weeks ago, and it has continued to work on my heart—

I do not want to please men except so far as it is necessary in order to please Thee.

If Thou wishest to use me for Thy work for them, I give myself to it, and, without thinking about myself I shall simply spread to them all the gifts which Thou hast poured upon me. I shall not go forward groping, always falling back upon myself.

However dangerous and disintegrating the duty may be, I shall behave simply before Thee with a right intention, knowing the goodness of the Father before Whom I walk. He wants no subtlety in His own.

If, on the contrary, Thou dost not wish to use me for others, I shall by no means offer myself. I shall not anticipate anything.

I shall perform in peace the other things to which Thou dost limit me. Because, according to the grace of yielding which Thou dost give me, I neither desire nor refuse anything. I am ready for anything, and consent to be useless in everything.

Sought, refused, known, ignored, praised, contradicted, what does it matter? It is Thou, and not me. It is Thou, and not Thy gifts separate from Thee and Thy love, which I seek for. All good conditions are immaterial to me. (Francois Fenelon)

May we all make this our prayer: It is Thou.

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Using Your Leadership Power To Serve Others

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Godly leaders are always striving to use their leadership power to serve others. What exactly does this look like? On a recent Craig And Greg Show episode, Greg and I discussed this important leadership tension.

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Ready, Waiting, And Watching

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Although Jesus spoke these words to His followers 2000 years ago, they are especially important to all of His followers who are awaiting His imminent return—

Be dressed ready for service and keep your lamps burning, like servants waiting for their master to return from a wedding banquet, so that when he comes and knocks they can immediately open the door for him. It will be good for those servants whose master finds them watching when he comes. Truly I tell you, he will dress himself to serve, will have them recline at the table and will come and wait on them. It will be good for those servants whose master finds them ready, even if he comes in the middle of the night or toward daybreak. But understand this: If the owner of the house had known at what hour the thief was coming, he would not have let his house be broken into. You also must be ready, because the Son of Man will come at an hour when you do not expect Him. (Luke 12:35-40) 

There are three words that stand out to me: ready, waiting, and watching. 

Ready is an adjective describing the Christian servant. Its etymology is from the noun meaning “fitness.” So the ready servant has all that he needs at hand. He is prepared for every opportunity, ready to serve and to receive whomever his Master sends him. 

Waiting is a verb that is in the present tense. That means it is something we always have to be doing. The prefix of this Greek word—like the adjective for “ready”—also means that everything that we need to serve is close by and ready to be used, and the root word is to give hospitality. So the waiting servant is waiting with a purpose: always ready to serve at a moment’s notice. 

Watching is also a present tense verb. This word means that we are giving undivided attention to the task that has been given us. 

Jesus was addressing His disciples, but these words are still for you and for me. At every moment we need to be fit to serve, with all that we need close at hand for every opportunity God sends our way.

I want to be occupied in my heavenly service until the very moment Jesus returns to earth or calls me Home. There are no off days. There is no time to waste on frivolous matters, but I need to be solely focused on only doing what matters for eternity. 

Will you join me in serving like this? We lead others to Jesus by serving those Jesus puts in our life. And as we do that, we serve our Master as well.

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Last Place

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I was sitting with a couple of ladies in our school district who were trying to figure out the logistics for a food distribution program. I was offering them a couple of suggestions when one of them asked me, “Have you ever had any experience with something like this?” 

I told her that I had, and then she responded, “But this is going to be pretty big. Probably about 40 families.” 

I smiled and told her that the food distribution program I helped coordinate fed nearly 5000 people. 

She said, “Well, I guess we don’t have to worry anymore!” And from then on, whenever any logistical concerns came up, these ladies confidently handed off the situation to me. Once they knew that I had some relevant experience, they didn’t have any more moments of questioning. 

Unlike Jesus, I didn’t create all of the food from a few loaves and fish. I simply organized the distribution of the food others had donated. I am glad these ladies had confidence in me, but at the same time, I had to guard my heart against the pride that can so easily puff up my ego.

Can you imagine if you were one of the disciples of Jesus, and had seen all of the miraculous things He had done and heard all of the profound things that He had said, and then still had the audacity to ask, “Who is the greatest”?! 

And yet that is exactly what they did (Mark 9:33-35). 

How in the world could they argue about something like this when Jesus was right there with them? Maybe this thought finally sunk in a little because later on they pivoted a bit in their argument to ask who was the greatest after Jesus (Matthew 20:20-28). 

Jesus minced no words and left nothing vague in His answer: “Anyone wants to be first must be the very last, and the servant of all” (Mark 9:34). 

This is exactly what Jesus embodied. He literally lived and died to prove that the highest greatness is measured by the lowest of servanthood. 

…Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to His own advantage; rather, He made Himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, He humbled Himself by becoming obedient to death—even death on a Cross! (Philippians 2:5-8)

The very last. Jesus made Himself nothing.

Not above some and beneath some, but the servant of all. 

A mark of a godly leader is one who strives to be last.

Not: “I am second.” But: “I am last.” 

This is not just a declaration, but it is a declaration followed by a lifetime of submitting and serving. Not trying to lead others, but trying to out-serve all. 

This is part 74 in my series on godly leadership. You can check out all of my posts in this series by clicking here.

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Be An “Instead” Leader

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So Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers in this world lord it over their people, and officials flaunt their authority over those under them. Not so with you. Instead…” (Mark 10:42-43).

A Christlike leader is an “instead” leader. 

Instead of exercising authority, exercising humility. 

Instead of being served, serving everyone else. 

Instead of being first in line, being last in line. 

Instead of seeking recognition, seeking anonymity. 

Instead of collecting titles, collecting calluses.

Instead of receiving, giving. 

Jesus, help me to be an “instead” leader—to strive to more consistently lead like You. 

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Poetry Saturday—Choices

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“…Choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve.” (Joshua 24:15)

I have to choose.
Not my parents.
Not my heritage.
To choose for me.
Myself.

I have to choose.
Not trapped by yesterday.
Not anxious for tomorrow.
To choose this day.
Everyday.

I have to choose.
Not to be in control.
Not to be the master.
To choose whom I will serve.
Jesus.

I have chosen.
Myself.
Today.
Jesus.

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