The Craig And Greg Show: Growth From The Hard Road

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Think back to some of the hard times you’ve been through. Do those times conjure up fond memories and a longing to return to yesteryear? Of course not! Most people do their best to forget these moments as quickly as possible, but a mature leader recognizes the value of the suffering they’ve endured. Join us for today’s episode as we discuss how your most painful moments have the potential to be your biggest opportunities for growth.

  • [0:00] Introduction
  • [0:16] During this episode you might be saying, “I don’t want to go there!”
  • [2:03] Growth comes from switching from, “How do I get out of this?” to “What can I get out of this?”
  • [3:08] Why do we avoid that painful lessons that could help us grow?
  • [4:53] Greg shares about a learning experience from his football career.
  • [6:13] My rough season led to a book called When Sheep Bite.
  • [8:15] We have to practice learning in difficult seasons.
  • [10:00] Pain can show us what needs to be changed to realize growth opportunities.
  • [13:02] Greg asks me what is one thing that held me back from learning from adversity.
  • [14:55] Greg shares what held him back earlier in his leadership journey.
  • [16:52] I have learned an important first response in difficult times.
  • [18:53] Sometimes we need an outside mentor to help us see where we’re struggling.
  • [22:00] “Your hardest times often lead to some of your greatest moments.”
  • [22:49] Here’s how Maximize Leadership can help you navigate your hard roads.

8 Quotes from “Leading In Tough Times”

Everyone faces tough times, but leaders who encounter these difficult times have the opportunity to help their teams thrive or fall during this time. John Maxwell shares the challenges leader face in these situations, and how they can overcome them and help successfully bring others along as well. Check out my full book review of Leading in Tough Times. 

“Good leaders understand that adversity and challenges are actually opportunities to rise up in leadership.

  1. Adversity introduces us to ourselves
  2. Adversity is a better teacher than success
  3. Adversity opens doors for new opportunities
  4. Adversity writes our story if our response is right” 

“How do people overcome problems, challenges, and difficulties? They make changes. Improvement requires change. Innovation requires change. Seizing opportunities requires change. … As a leader in tough times, you need to become a change agent. You need to help others embrace positive change, even when it takes them outside their comfort zone. You need to help them get results, even when they worry that it might not be possible.” 

“There is no downside to adding value to people. Yes, it will cost you time and effort. But when you add value to people, you help them and make them more valuable.” 

“If you lead people who are falling short of their potential, you need to start asking why. Have you put them in their strength zones? Are you providing the training and resources they need to be successful? Is there something they need that you’re not giving? You always need to make sure you are not the problem before you look to see where the problem is.” 

“If you are a leader, the true measure of your success is not getting people to work. It’s not getting people to work hard. It is getting people to work hard together.” 

“In times of difficulty, relationships are a shelter. In terms of opportunity, they are a launching pad. Trust is required for people to feel safe enough to create, share, question, attempt, and risk. Without it, leadership is weak and teamwork is impossible.” 

“One of the best ways to persuade others is with your ears. That may seem counterintuitive, because we expect persuasion to involve speaking. But when a leader listens to members of the team, that act gives the leader greater credibility and therefore influence. In contrast, when team members no longer believe that their leader listens to understand them, they start looking around for someone who will.” 

“Care and candor must be in balance. Care without candor creates dysfunctional relationships. Candor without care creates distant relationships. But care balanced with candor creates developing relationships. … Caring values the person while candor values the person’s potential.” 

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Leading In Tough Times (book review)

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Some people have a misconception about leadership that John Maxwell dispels in the opening words of his book Leading in Tough Times. He writes, “Good leaders understand that adversity and challenges are actually opportunities to rise up in leadership.” 

In fact, I would say that some of the best leaders have gone through some of the toughest of times, learning lessons that have set them apart as an exemplary leader. 

Tough times come to every organization—no matter its size—but leaders who will seize the opportunity to navigate the difficulty successfully will grow both themselves and the organization they lead. That’s because there are some lessons that can be learned in no other way than to grow through difficulties. 

If those statements inspired you, then Leading in Tough Times is the book for you! As he does in all of his books, John Maxwell culls the best advice from the best sources and distills it down into actionable steps for leaders who are ready to learn. In this book, Mr. Maxwell shares seven challenges that give leaders opportunities not just to go through difficulties, but to grow through difficulties. 

If you are in a challenging season right now, this book could be a lifeline for you. If you aren’t in a difficult season right now, use this book as a training manual for both you and the emerging leaders around you to prepare for the next challenge. After all, the challenging times are inevitable, but our growth as leaders in these times is entirely up to us. 

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In Dire Straits

dire straits:
[dahyuhr streyts]   / ˈdaɪər ˈstreɪts /
→ very difficult circumstances.

In Psalm 142, David relates the dire straits he was in:
Enemies closing in.
Trapped in a dead-end cave.
No one around to help.

I look for someone to come and help me, but no one gives me a passing thought! No one will help me; no one cares a bit what happens to me. (Psalm 142:4 NLT)

When there is no earthly way you can get out of the jam you’re in, it’s a perfect time for God to show you that He cares enough to do what no one else can do or will do!

Don’t throw in the towel; throw your hands up to God.

Then I pray to You, O Lord. I say, “You are my place of refuge. You are all I really want in life.” (Psalm 142:5 NLT) 

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The Change From “Why?” To Worship

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On this episode of The Podcast, let’s talk about seeing something brighter in the darkest of times. 

Check out all of the Scriptures I reference in this video here. 

You may seem some glimmers of light in your dark place—like Paul did in the Roman prison—but even if you don’t see anything but darkness, make the choice to worship. I need to remind myself that God has a plan for my life and that He is working out all the details for my good and to bring glory to Himself. 

Let’s change our self-focused “Why me?” to God-focused worship as we say, “Thank You, Jesus, that You are using me to build Your kingdom!” 

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Links & Quotes

As I was studying the Book of Jude, I came across this phrase, “Though you already know all this, I want to remind you.” This prompted these three quick thoughts that I want to share with my fellow pastors.

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Using the words from Isaiah 40:10-11, Sarah Young has Jesus speaking these words to us: “Adverse circumstances become growth opportunities when you affirm your trust in Me no matter what.”

Ken Blanchard has long used a challenge for leaders to catch their teammates doing something right. That phrase has now become the title of a biography about Ken. He says, “Great leaders who want to encourage and motivate their people set up a positive cycle:

  1. A great leader catches someone doing something right and praises them. 
  2. The leader’s praise helps the person feel good about themselves. 
  3. People who feel good about themselves produce good results. 
  4. A great leader notices when people produce good results. 
  5. See #1.”

This is a very encouraging read for men! Scott Hubbard writes, “You may not have ability for preaching and teaching, as Timothy did. But the Holy Spirit does not leave any Christian giftless. … You may have a small vision for your life; God does not.”

An amazing series from T.M. Moore on the law in a Kingdom economy. T.M. writes, “Christians don’t keep the Law to be saved; we keep it because we are saved, because it is the path that Jesus walked (1 John 2:1-6); and we recognize its value for helping us realize more of the life of holy, righteous, and good works for which we have been redeemed (Romans 7:12; Ephesians 2:8-10).” 

Geologists have discovered what Creationists already proposed about plate tectonics related to the Flood described in the Bible. “Flood geologists have predicted that plate motion slowed at the end of the Flood year, and now conventional scientists are finding it to be true.”

The Assemblies of God has always responded to popular religious trends with solid biblical exegesis. The “latter day rain” movement in the 1940s is a good example.

“Mature leaders swallow their egos and recognize God as their power source. They walk confidently in His authority, but never assume credit for it. Faith enables them to stretch, while humility enables them to stoop.” —John Maxwell

Tried And Tested

Moreover, [God] called for a famine upon the land of Egypt; He cut off every source of bread [Genesis 41:54]. He sent a man before them, even Joseph, who was sold as a servant [Genesis 45:5; 50:20, 21]. His feet they hurt with fetters; he was laid in chains of iron and his soul entered into the iron, until his word to his cruel brothers came true, until the word of the Lord tried and tested him. The king sent and loosed him, even the ruler of the peoples, and let him go free. He made Joseph Lord of his house and ruler of all his substance [Genesis 41:40]. To bind his princes at his pleasure and teach his elders wisdom. (Psalm 105:16-22 AMPC) 

“The word of the Lord tried and tested him.” When we cling to God’s promises despite the seemingly impossible circumstances we are in, that faithful clinging matures us. It both softens our heart and strengthens our trust in God. 

Before going through the difficulties, Joseph wasn’t ready to operate effectively in such a lofty leadership position. God uses all things to mold us and shape us for His purpose (Romans 8:28). We certainly see a more mature Joseph standing before Pharaoh than we saw interacting with his brothers earlier in his life. 

God called Joseph and he prepared Joseph. All that was lacking was Joseph’s faithful clinging to God and yielding to God’s maturing process. The end result was one of the most impactful leaders that history has ever known! 

I blogged more about Joseph:

Links & Quotes

Every “miss” along the journey can be a stepping stone to future success. If you don’t win, at least learn. Check out the full conversation Greg and I had.

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“One cannot grow fine flowers in a thin soil.” —Virginia Woolf 

I love catching verbal flubs and mistyped signs. I recently saw this sign at my Dad’s apartment complex. And this list from a Ford Motor Company executive is hilarious!

“A leader must embody the strength that inspires others to follow. And yet, this strength must be tempered with humility, for Christ Himself came not as a warrior-king but as a servant-leader, washing the feet of His disciples.” —Lost Kings reading plan on YouVersion 

John Piper identifies the roots of false teaching in his Look at the Book teaching on 1 Timothy 6—

What Fills Me?

When swelling and pride come, then emptiness and shame come also, but with the humble (those who are lowly, who have been pruned or chiseled by trial, and renounce self) are skillful and godly Wisdom and soundness. (Proverbs 11:2 AMPC) 

The pruning, trials, and discipline the Lord allows us to experience are for an important purpose: To allow ourselves to be emptied of ourselves. This humility that empties us of ourselves makes room for us to be full of the presence of God. 

On the other hand, remaining full of yourself—also called “pride”—will also bring an emptiness. But this emptiness comes with shame and is absent of God’s fulfilling presence. 

You and I must choose one or the other: humility before God or pride in ourselves.

Encouraging Others In The Storm

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Have you ever been going through a storm in your life and wondered, “God, why are You allowing me to go through this?” 

The Scriptures I reference in this episode are Acts 27; Jonah 1; Acts 23:11.

I talk more about encouragement in the storms of life in my posts Hope in the Storms and Hard Times. And I talk more about Jonah’s storm in the post Not the Answer I was Expecting. 

My book When Sheep Bite is available here. 

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