My friend Scott delivered a right-between-the-eyes message yesterday. Here are my takeaways.
Quite possibly the deadliest of the relationship killers is pride.
Think of all the ugly things surrounding Pride:
- Always fault-finding
- Always defensive
- Constantly craving attention
- Disregarding advice
- Saying “I’m better than you!”
- Saying “I don’t need your help!”
- Quick to tell others “Here’s how you should do that”
- Can’t handle any constructive criticism
- But always critical of others
In fact, C.S. Lewis said, “Pride leads to every other vice: it is the complete anti-God state of mind.”
One psalmist got right to the root of the problem of pride when he wrote—
In his pride the wicked does not seek Him; in all his thoughts there is no room for God. (Psalm 10:4)
No room for God?!
The Bible is all about relationships. Adam was first created to be in a relationship with God, and then Eve was created so she and Adam could be in a relationship with each other. Jesus reiterated this when He was asked what the greatest commandment was, and He said, “Love God with all your heart, mind and soul.”
But if Pride rules in my heart, and there is no room for God, how can I love Him with all I’ve got? The simple answer is: I can’t.
Jesus quickly added that the next greatest commandment also revolved around relationships when He said, “And love your neighbor as yourself.”
If my proud heart is filled with prideful love, it cannot be filled with God’s love.
If my pride-filled heart has no room for God’s love, then it has no room to love anyone else.
Pride kills every relationship.
Jesus had absolutely no trace of pride when He set aside all His heavenly privileges and came to earth as a Human (Philippians 2:6-8). The Apostle Paul then tells us that our attitude should be the same as Christ’s attitude.
Humility kills pride!
Are you filled with pride? Ask yourself some of these questions:
- Do I have a problem submitting to authority?
- When I get into an argument, do I always have to have the last word?
- Am I willing to accept blame?
- Can I ask for forgiveness, or am I always right?
- Do I sometimes cheat at a game just so I can win?
- If I lose, is it someone else’s fault?
- If I win, do I brag about how good I am?
- Do I think I’m the only one who can solve all my own issues?
- Do I think I can solve everyone else’s issues too?
If you found yourself saying “yes” to these questions it’s probably time to ask the Holy Spirit to do a heart-check on your level of pride. Make sure that in your heart there is increasingly more room for God.