Self Checkup

These are great look-myself-in-the-mirror questions from Oswald Chambers (from My Utmost For His Highest):

  • How much kindness have I shown to God in the past week?
  • Has my life been a good reflection on His reputation?
  • Am I as filled to overflowing with love for Jesus Christ as I was in the beginning…?
  • Am I so in love with Him that I take no thought for where He might lead me?
  • Or am I watching to see how much respect I get as I measure how much service I should give Him?

Great questions to ask myself. And then really listen to the answers.

Good For What

There is a power in what we say. This is probably most true in what we say to ourselves. Far too many people are so quick to beat themselves up and run themselves down. Do you ever do that?

  • How could I have missed that? I’m so stupid!
  • Grrr! I forgot my wallet again. I’m so forgetful!
  • I can’t believe I said that! I’m so insensitive!
  • I could never paint like that. I’m so uncreative!
  • I really messed that one up. I’m such an idiot!
  • I can’t seem to do anything right. I’m just a good-for-nothing!

If you talked to your friends the same way you talk to yourself, would you have any friends left?

The things you say to yourself have got to change. The way you think about yourself has got to change. God made you the way He made you on purpose. In all of human history there has never been another you. Right now among the nearly 7 billion people on earth there isn’t anyone like you.

You are you because God made you. And He loves what He made. He loves you.

Perfect? No way! None of us are. That’s one of the few things you and I have in common with everyone else.

Unique? You better believe it.

One of a kind? You sure are.

Good for something? Yep. You have the talents and abilities and personality and temperament that God intended for you to have.

STOP BEATING YOURSELF UP! Look into God’s mirror and let Him reflect back to you just how wonderful you are! Spend quiet time with your Creator, with your Lover. Hear Him whisper to your heart how special you are.

Then be you. The world needs you to be you. The world is a better place with you in it.

I’d love to hear how God has helped you – or is helping you – to see yourself differently. I’d also love to pray with you if you are struggling in this area… let me know how I can help.

Say What?

I know that you had a very important conversation yesterday. And I also know that you are going to have an extremely important conversation again today. The question is not if you had the conversation, it’s whether or not you heard the conversation clearly?

The most important conversation you will have today is the ongoing conversation you will have all day long with… yourself. But are you clearly listening to what you are saying to yourself?

I was helping Betsy grade some papers from her fourth-grade students and I noticed something consistently appearing on one of her student’s papers. This student performs well academically, and Betsy says her behavior in the classroom is “angelic.” So I don’t think it’s coincidental that this young lady talks to herself positively all day long. On her papers she writes notes to herself like “You R The Best” and “I rock!”

The way you speak to yourself matters. The way you speak to yourself determines your attitude. The way you speak to yourself will determine how you treat others.

Jesus said it this way, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. …[And] love your neighbor as yourself” (Mark 12:30-31, New International Version). The way you love yourself determines how you love others.

The way you speak to yourself determines your performance. Dr. James Hardy of the University of Wales says, “Athletes who talk to themselves in a positive way perform better. Thinking good thoughts isn’t enough — you have to say them, either muttered or out loud.”

Some of you may be saying some really harsh things to yourself. Some of the things you say to yourself would earn someone else a smack in the mouth if they said the same thing to you. Listen to what you are saying to yourself! Stop beating yourself up!

Maybe — like Betsy’s student — you might even have to write yourself a note or two to remind yourself how valuable you are. You are one-of-a-kind… there’s never been anyone like you before, no one is like you now, and no one will duplicate you in the future. Make sure that’s the message that’s getting through loud and clear today.

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