I know that you had a very important conversation yesterday. And I also know that you are going to have an extremely important conversation again today. The question is not if you had the conversation, it’s whether or not you heard the conversation clearly?
The most important conversation you will have today is the ongoing conversation you will have all day long with… yourself. But are you clearly listening to what you are saying to yourself?
I was helping Betsy grade some papers from her fourth-grade students and I noticed something consistently appearing on one of her student’s papers. This student performs well academically, and Betsy says her behavior in the classroom is “angelic.” So I don’t think it’s coincidental that this young lady talks to herself positively all day long. On her papers she writes notes to herself like “You R The Best” and “I rock!”
The way you speak to yourself matters. The way you speak to yourself determines your attitude. The way you speak to yourself will determine how you treat others.
Jesus said it this way, “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength. …[And] love your neighbor as yourself” (Mark 12:30-31, New International Version). The way you love yourself determines how you love others.
The way you speak to yourself determines your performance. Dr. James Hardy of the University of Wales says, “Athletes who talk to themselves in a positive way perform better. Thinking good thoughts isn’t enough — you have to say them, either muttered or out loud.”
Some of you may be saying some really harsh things to yourself. Some of the things you say to yourself would earn someone else a smack in the mouth if they said the same thing to you. Listen to what you are saying to yourself! Stop beating yourself up!
Maybe — like Betsy’s student — you might even have to write yourself a note or two to remind yourself how valuable you are. You are one-of-a-kind… there’s never been anyone like you before, no one is like you now, and no one will duplicate you in the future. Make sure that’s the message that’s getting through loud and clear today.