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I’ve always loved this stanza from a William Cowper poem:
Prayer is indispensable in spiritual warfare! Prayer is where we fight best for those we love.
Have you ever heard the question, “Are you a lover or a fighter?” I don’t believe this is an either-or answer, both both-and. I’m a fighter because I’m a lover. I love Jesus and I am loved by Jesus. This fuels my passion to fight for His glory to be seen. This drives me to fight against the powers that keep others from knowing this love for themselves.
T.M. Moore wrote, “If we want God to bring revival and save the world from its many and increasing troubles, we must give ourselves to extraordinary efforts in prayer before we enter the conflict.” Prayer isn’t preparation for the fight; prayer is the fight that has been lovingly empowered. This is why our fifth spiritual discipline of prayer is so vital.
As we have seen with giving and fasting, Jesus also has some don’ts and dos for us about praying (Matthew 6:5-8):
- don’t pray publicly for earthly recognition or human applause (v. 5)
- do pray privately (v. 6)
- don’t pray robotically—And when you pray, do not heap up phrases—multiply words, repeating the same ones over and over—as the Gentiles do, for they think they will be heard for their much speaking (v. 7 AMP)
- do pray intimately (v. 8)
Jesus practiced what He preached about praying in secret: Jesus was praying in private (Luke 9:18). He must have prayed so differently than anyone else the disciples had ever heard because they asked Him, “Lord, teach us to pray” (Luke 11:1).
Remember that prayer is the battle—things are happening while I’m praying.
There is a way I speak to my wife in private that I don’t typically say in public. If I didn’t speak intimately to her in private, others would notice a difference in public. When I do have intimate, private, regular conversations with her, it also shows publicly.
So too with prayer. The New Testament doesn’t record very many of the prayers of Jesus for us. In fact, many of things we might think of as prayers sound more like commands from Jesus—“Lazarus, come forth,” “Little girl, get up,” “Be clean,” and similar phrases. We see the public display of power because Jesus had been empowered in private by His Father.
Private prayer is noticed publicly in the lives of the followers of Jesus too (see Acts 4:13; 6:15).
I don’t pray privately so that I can show off publicly. I pray in intimate privacy so that I can publicly show off Jesus!
All of our spiritual disciplines are for us individually so that we have something to give corporately. For instance—
- Bible study gives us words to pray
- Solitude gives us space to pray
- Fasting gives us a hunger to pray
As we are built up in private prayer, there is a greater unity in corporate prayer, and Jesus is lifted up for the world to see. We love Jesus and we love others, so we fight for the glory of God and the strengthening of our brothers and sisters. We are loving fighters!
So let me encourage you to make private, intimate conversation with Jesus a priority in your life.
If you’ve missed any of the previous spiritual disciplines we’ve covered in this series, you can check them all out here.
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