The future of our schools, our businesses, our communities and our country is being determined right now in our homes and in our schools. The way we raise our kids now will have far-reaching implications for all of us. Dr. Elmore has such a great way of speaking to the leadership issues of our young people, that I cannot urge you strongly enough to read this book.
Real quickly, the 12 huge mistakes that parents and teachers need to avoid are:
- We Won’t Let Them Fail
- We Project Our Lives On Them
- We Prioritize Being Happy
- We Are Inconsistent
- We Remove The Consequences
- We Lie About Their Potential And Don’t Explore Their True Potential
- We Won’t Let Them Struggle Or Fight
- We Give Them What They Should Earn
- We Praise The Wrong Things
- We Value Removing All Pain
- We Do It For Them
- We Prepare The Path For The Child Instead Of The Child For The Path
The book opens with a simple parenting quiz that will allow assess where you are in these 12 areas. Then you can turn to the chapter on which you scored the highest in the “overfunctioning parent” scale, and deal with that issue first. Each chapter is jam-packed with practical tips to correct that particular mistake.
Dr. Elmore describes the purpose behind his book this way—“Here’s the bottom line. I believe we need to face some new issues as parents. We must define what kids need from us to mature in a healthy way. We must figure out what hinders their growth and what equips them to be great adults. We must become both nurturers and trainers, knowing that we are not raising children, but future adults. I offer this book as a reference guide as you face your toughest challenges and attempt to get kids ready for life as they leave your home or school. Here’s to correcting our mistakes along the way—for their sake.”
Parents and teachers, go get this book!