I’ll Take My Roses Today, Please

My Grandfather used to say, “Give me my flowers while I’m still alive.” I think this was his way of restating the cliché, “Dead noses smell no roses.” It’s true: flowers at a gravesite—no matter how beautiful they are—aren’t appreciated by dead noses. Kind and loving words spoken at a funeral—no matter how eloquent they are—aren’t appreciated by dead ears.

The point is: today is special. Today is one-of-a-kind. Today is the best day to tell someone dear to you how truly special they are. Today may be the last day you have to make something right. Today is the day to send those flowers. Don’t put it off until tomorrow.

How many people live with regrets today because of the things they didn’t say before a loved one passed away from this life? How many people feel guilty today because they didn’t make things right in a strained relationship? How much better to live today knowing that we said and did all of the things we could to express our love, to show how valuable the relationship was.

Job said, “My days are swifter than a runner” (Job 9:25).

His friend Bildad agreed that, “Our days on earth are but a shadow” (Job 8:9).

And James wrote, “Your life is like the morning fog—it’s here a little while, then it’s gone” (James 4:14).

We never know how much time is left to send those flowers.


  • Make that phone call.
  • Ask forgiveness.
  • Write that letter.
  • Apologize.
  • Hug.
  • Go to lunch.
  • Say, “I love you.”
  • Send those flowers.

Don’t live your tomorrows with regrets for the things unsaid or undone—say them and do them today.

6 Responses to “I’ll Take My Roses Today, Please”

  1. barney Says:

    I love you guy, and that wasn’t even hard to say. You mean so much in my life it’s hard to point out all the specific’s but you know what I feel for you. Our days are numbered by the Lord before we are even born and he alone know the time we leave this earth. I try every day to let people know the feeling’s I have but as you said sometimes we get “in a fog”. God Bless you and thank you for all the help you have given to me.


  2. Mary Van Beek Says:

    Craig , you know that I have lost both of my parents recently ,may I add to the roses , time spent with loved ones making not big memories but small ones. Singing hymns with mom and taking her to church from the nursing home on the go bus,not that much but Oh the tears that flow remembering. Dad sticking his tongue out at Tara laughing .why because he could (couldn’t commumicate but in his own way). No regrets, lots of memories and yearning to see them in heaven. One other thing to give loved ones is Jesus we need to share our savior with them so they really understand the love we have for them . Love you guys Mary


  3. beahale Says:

    u know that I love you and your family… ok we are all part of your family. I would send roses but they cost too much so I will send you my love instead and thanks for all you do for us. I can’t wait to see my son in heaven and tell him how much I love him . God is so wounderful and I know he is with him . all my grandparents are with them in heaven . My parents are still with me and I tell them everytime I talk to them that I love them.


  4. Karen Says:

    Pastor Craig,
    A very good friend of mine had said to me life’s too short.
    I realized it really is. So I have always tried to forgive even when it really hurts. Give lots of hugs, smile and say I Love You. Because we never know when it might be our last time we see each other here on earth. So I will give my roses away. That all may enjoy while they are here on earth.


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