I’m facing a big decision. I have an idea of the right way to go, but I’m taking some time to run my options by some wise guys. After all, even King Solomon — who was wiser than any other man, and probably could advise himself — wrote, “The more wise counsel you follow, the better your chances” (Proverbs 11:14, The Message).
I also like what George Washington Carver said, “How much of God are we missing because we don’t stop to listen to the many voices God uses to speak to us?”
Of all the voices speaking to me, how am I choosing which wise guys to listen to?
Friendship — I have to know that my counselors are my friends. William Shakespeare asked the question, “Can he that speaks with the tongue of an enemy be a good counselor, or no?” I would answer “no.” I need wise guys that want me to be successful.
B.T.D.T. — I choose wise guys who have Been There Done That. Guys who have walked through the same scenario I’m facing now. Not a travel agent to point the way, but a tour guide who knows the path, and will walk it with me.
Scarred — It’s hard to be helpful to someone else when you still have a gaping wound. I need wise guys who have been wounded in the past but now have the scars to show where they’ve been healed. It’s from this vantage point that they can be of the most help to me.
Successful — Finally, I choose to listen to wise guys who are successful. I don’t need some to tell me what should work… I want to hear what does work.
There’s an old attorney’s adage that says, “He who represents himself has a fool for a client.” If you have a decision to make I would modify this to say, “He who takes advice only from himself is taking counsel from a fool.”
What else would you look for in a wise guy? I’d love your counsel on this.